donna jenkinson CSMC SMC SQHP GHR
certified stress management & mindset reset
Welcome to the readable and audio version of my experience and what came up for me in the thick of juggling business and family! My little snippets of information and awareness around building my confidence and connecting with myself, and how I managed my mind in these very challenging times!
If like me you are in the thick of it right now, how do you fully show up when YOU are in demand?
Donna in demand
In The Thick of things!
Hi im Donna, I Help Female Biz Owners Go From Self Doubt To Self Belief & Feel Energetically Aligned & Safe, something a little different diving into something I know we're all feeling—being in demand. Whether it’s kids going back to school, running a business, or just keeping everything balanced, it can feel like we’re constantly pulled in every direction. Right now I’m right in the thick of it too—like many of you. So, want to take a few minutes to talk about how we can stay confident and connected to ourselves, even when life is hectic." "First off, it’s important to recognize that being in demand doesn’t mean losing ourselves. It’s all about managing our mind, and here’s how I do it: 1. **Confidence in Routine:** Structure helps me stay confident. With family and guests here routines have been adjusted and drastically reduced but non the less crucial to have in place. By getting up early and planning out a part of my morning leaves me time for work and time for family in being fully present with them as well as my me time to show up with more energy and less overwhelm - my usual ritual and routine can be anywhere from 4-6 hours each day focusing on marketing, sales, communication and of course my soul clients. Whilst the length of a morning routine is not so important, the focus on a routine that is meaningful and efficient is and so this could be as little as 15 minutes daily. 2 **Micro Moments of Reflection:** Throughout the day, I regularly stop for just a moment and check in with myself, my focus and commitment - am I in my stories, reasons, excuses - or my vision as it cant be both. it is very easy to get lost in a cycle of confusion or overwhelm when our focus is in many different places and so just stopping, pausing and taking a breath and checking in where I am … 3. **Mindset Reset:** When im out of my vision and in my stories and mind drama feeling overwhelm taking me away from who I desire to be, while I know I being in demand is a sign of value—people need me - the power lies in how I respond and to acknowledge how im feeling - easier said than done you may be thinking …. As we try so hard to apply logic to how we are being but we can't as emotions aren't logical. There are so many emotions coming up for me on a daily basis and it’s learning to feel ok with them. Emotions cant hurt us, it is nothing more than a vibration, an energy that runs through our body that if we allowed it to process and run its course - each one should take no more than 90 seconds yet we feel they go on far longer and can be sat in them for minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and even feel like years and the reason is we compound them with more thoughts, more thoughts and even more thoughts. Thoughts of “ I should have my shit together.." “I should know what im doing.." punishing myself and spiraling in what im making all this mean and adding more and more emotions creating a chemical cocktail of stress hormones taking us further and further away from our true nature! Every emotion is important and valid in showing you where you are in your being at any given time. Another understanding that helps me in situations is knowing when Im in my higher power and connected to my higher self, my thoughts generate feeling expansive, joy excitement and love .. when im in my ego/ lower brain - I can tell as they shift to lower quality thoughts and going against my truth, it feels tight, restrictive painful so I know its all lies. To be a human and alive we continually have thoughts. Our brain is constantly churning out thoughts, even through the night and as we sleep. These thoughts may manifest as dreams or as background mental activity that we are not consciously aware of. During sleep, our conscious mind is less active, so the thoughts are not the same as during waking hours when we can have deliberate, controlled thinking. Through the night we experience nightmares. Interestingly, when we wake up or remember a bad dream we think to ourselves "it was just a dream" and can dismiss it easily but when we have thoughts through the day - or day mares, we believe them and own them all as a part of us and believe them. They're not us. A thought is a sentence or phrase, a collection of words strung together that are the interpretations, opinions, or stories that we create about the facts of our lives that are not inherently true or factual; they are subjective mental constructs that shape our perception of reality. Knowing this and with my thin slice of awareness …. I can practice being 'ok' with being vulnerable in all these different moments, not to feel shameful for having these emotions as I know at the other side of it is a breakthrough! 4. **Connection & Self-Care:**to summarise - As female business owners, especially with families, it’s easy to forget about our own needs. But in reality, we can’t pour from an empty cup. So, with everything outlined earlier that goes on on a regular basis, I build small moments of self-care into my day. For me I know the breath alone can instantly change how I feel and regulate my nervous system. If you think of the nervous system like an elastic band, there's only so much it can stretch before it goes right back to where it was - especially with all the emotion, thoughts, and mind drama that goes on. Breath work supports the expansion of the nervous system - our window of tolerance and theres only so much we can tolerate right? Expanding ourselves and our business goals requires being in the unknown and breath work trains your brain to be ok with being in the unknown. To shift how you respond instead of react and so get to choose who you want to be - it can all start with just remembering to just stop and breathe …. And so as we step into this new season, whether it’s back to school or just the juggle and balancing of daily life, remember that you are in control. You can show up confidently and take care of yourself, even when you’re in demand. Take it one day at a time, one moment at a time. You've got this!" "Take time for YOU—because when you show up for yourself, you can show up for everyone else with confidence.
Donna in demand
Losing Energy When Living In The Past.
With everything that has been going on over recent weeks, I thought this is a great opportunity for me to share been in the thick of it of feeling like im donna in demand! With what has been happening in real life and how drifting away from my sense of being has started to impact me physically. In the last video I talked about how our emotions and thoughts creep in, especially when attempting to push forward with our business goals. This requires practising and dealing with a lot of time in the unknown and uncertainty that is enough to trigger the mind drama, stories and excuses for anyone, suddenly adding juggling family into the mix and wow … With constantly been in demand, it really made me question so much and eventually, I really started to feel it physically too!. It all comes back to our self awareness and who we are ‘being’ at any given moment as this directly affects everything. Our energy, intentions, attitude and belief systems impact every aspect of our lives and plays out in our body, spirituality (being), relationships (balance), and business and so today I want to dive in how this directly affected my body and why. In those moments of been suddenly triggered, questioning my capabilities when thinking ‘I should have my shit together’, dwelling on mistakes, regrets, should of .. could of .. what if… this triggered a whole cocktail of negative emotions like guilt, shame, or frustration, confusion and overwhelm. Why? My brain was activating old emotional patterns and thought loops causing a disconnect from my present moment and true inner power. We all know that energy flows where attention goes, however when my mind was innocently drawn back to the past, it would send my energy backwards with it and stuck there, unavailable to support my present needs. Energy cant flow as freely when im holding onto old stories and judgments and so becomes fragmented and drained, this started to impact my physical body, preventing optimal health. How? I suffered with chronic stress, debilitating digestive issues and IBS most of my life from school up right up into my forties. At the time I didnt know it was my mind draining my energy when caught up in the stories, unresolved trauma or doubts about decisions made and how much living in the past sucked away my energy, keeping my nervous system in a state of stress. Stuck in this stressed state every day made it harder for it to rest, repair and regenerate. The consequence of this leaked into my body, every relationship, my connection to myself and my work. Being self aware and managing my mind daily has allowed me to let go of all of it physically and emotionally and so live in a space of peace and calm and neutrality. While this is a great space to be each day, the new stressors that came with juggling and balancing family and business impacted me almost immediately. I started to feel tension in my neck and shoulders, frequent headaches and digestive issues started to creep in, something I haven’t had in years. All because my body’s energy was diverted into maintaining that tension rather than supporting my overall vitality and health. The energy that would typically support my organs, immune system, and overall vitality is now being diverted into maintaining this state of tension, preventing healing and optimal functioning. Maybe this sounds familiar or resonates with you. My clients come to me when they get a sense that there are things still hidden and very deep. When conventional ways dont create the change they desire and can feel the stress impacting so much, sensitively is heightened and everything feels a constant struggle. Now you are aware your body can only heal when in the present moment where your energy lies. When stuck in negative thought patterns this blocks your ability to heal. Optimal health requires a balanced flow of energy, a calm nervous system, and the ability to remain in the present, all of which are disrupted when the mind is anchored in the past. While you’re in a new season now, settling into and balancing new routines with family and/or business, imagine how in a month’s time you have much more energy as a result of collapsing all your triggers and residing more in the rest and digest state with your energy in the present to allow space to heal. Imagine that by Christmas, you have so much more energy, you feel incredible and certain about yourself and your body and your business goals. Im not talking about dropping a dress size, but actual true connection with yourself that you never going to be worrying again of whats taking up too much of your precious energy and resulting in endless tiredness and fatigue as a result of spinning in cycles of guilt, shame or frustration. Thanksgiving and Christmas are just around the corner, it can be the most exciting time of our lives or the most draining life sucking times of our lives! I know im more efficient with more energy and productivity when I’m in a neutral space and so I invite you to work with me 1:1, where we will dive deep into identifying the specific triggers that set off those old emotional patterns and thought loops. Together, we will uncover the stories that generate negative emotions, which block and drain your precious energy. By neutralising these negative emotional charges permanently, you will shift out of a stress state and back into a place of calm and rest, allowing your energy to return fully to the present. Through our daily work, you'll experience a profound realignment of your energy, intentions, attitude, and belief systems, leading you to a state of balance and neutrality. This neutral space is where true transformation happens—where you can finally reconnect with your inner power, release the weight of the past, and live fully in the present. If you're not yet ready to commit to three months then no problem, throughout September I’m offering four weeks 1:1 transformation! If you’re ready to take this step and reclaim your energy and vitality, I’d love to guide you on this journey. Let's work together to create the life you deserve and so DM me now to say ‘Im in’ to start your transformation.
Donna in demand
How Been 'In The Thick of It' Cascaded Into My Relationships & My Business.
Hey everyone, Donna here, I wanted to share something deeply personal that I've been reflecting on—how been ‘donna in demand’ and ‘in the thick of things’ over the last few weeks and drifting away from my true BEING has cascaded into my relationship with my partner and, in fact every other area of my life. Moving along in life from this neutral space, been thrown in the thick of things suddenly while trying to balance my family and business, constantly been in "go mode," really made me lose sight of who I was BEING at my core. Being disconnected from my true authentic self cascaded into my body which I shared I the last video and ultimately into my relationships and my business. Over the years for myself and my clients, evidence has shown how our energetic state—the way we’re BEING when we show up—ripples out into every aspect of our lives. Suddenly been out of alignment with my true self and feeling overwhelmed, I quickly noticed tension and disconnection with my partner. It wasn't just about the words exchanged but the energy I brought into our interactions. When energetically in a place of overwhelm and self-doubt, it coloured my perception of everything. Instead of showing up with love, confidence, and openness, I found myself reacting from a place of fear, stress, and frustration. Why? My natural flow of emotions was interrupted, triggering stuck and stagnant energy - again, a result of unresolved emotions and negative thought patterns, stories and beliefs from unprocessed events in life. This stagnant energy is what causes physical tension and emotional distress and causing overwhelm. I felt I was reacting different and this was indirectly being projected onto my more than patient and supportive partner resulting in emotional distance. I could feel myself slowly operating from a place of control and defensiveness, I felt myself closing off and being guarded. Luckily, quite quickly I was able to pick up on and address this, if I didnt have the tools, it could have quickly escalated and spiralled, eventually leading to a massive breakdown in our relationship. This shift didn't just affect my relationship; it influenced how I approached my business in my daily tasks - showing up as procrastination, lack of confidence and reluctance to make decisions, taking the required action steps that would move the needle in my business. Somehow ‘trying’ to do more in those moments of confusion only led to more feeling overwhelmed and stuck. I just didnt see I had a choice - I chose ‘either or’ not both. I could have chose gratitude for being with my family, trusting and surrendering that my business will still continue but I didnt. I chose to hold onto judgement and shame and guilt creating more energetic barriers. When I brought my concerns to my business and coaching call, both my colleagues and myself brought up how many distractions were starting to show up. Women with different businesses in different countries, it was non coincidence how our resilience and self belief were been tested. Our minds creating all kinds of resistance -especially when close to breakthroughs and significant growth. Again a reminder that stepping into the unknown can be incredibly uncomfortable as the mind seeks comfort with familiarity. Distractions show up rooted in fear of failure, fear of success or just the discomfort of change. The truth is, when we allow ourselves to operate from a place that isn’t aligned with our higher self, we create an energetic barrier that impacts our entire life. It’s not just about managing our mind but also about being conscious of the energy we bring into each moment. When reflecting on what was coming up by journalling and emotional clearing my triggers with breath work, I began to reconnect with my true BEING and immediately noticing a shift. This experience has reminded me that we can't pour from an empty cup. Taking the time to reconnect with my true self isn't just self-care—it's essential to maintaining healthy relationships and living a fulfilling life. When we show up for ourselves and are energetically aligned, we can show up for our loved ones and our business with authenticity and love. To see distractions and triggers as a sign that we are on the right path. Looking back now ive seen too many women whose progress has been affected just stop and pack it all in! Too many that stop showcasing their skills, their passion and purpose and what they were meant for! The world missing out on their unique value and perspectives they could have contributed. So, if you’re feeling off balance, lean into the discomfort. There are many ways to stay grounded and stay connected to your purpose. I offer one way is for you to consider staying connected to your BEING. It’s amazing how much can change when you do. Your journey into the unknown is where true transformation happens. I would love to guide you on your journey. Distractions are part of the process that when navigated mindfully, can lead to your profound growth and success. DM me now to say ‘Im in’ for details of how we can work together to start your transformation.
